It’s okay to ask for help sometimes

We would like help. But let’s just say we’d like to avoid any Imperial entanglements.

About a year ago I had a friend on a graduate programme who had a dilemma. He could not do his job and he didn’t know what to do next. I said that he should talk to his boss. He said that he had several bosses. So I said he should pick the one he was most comfortable with and ask him. He said he couldn’t do that.

My friend then asked his Dad for advice. His Dad’s advice was this: “Do not ask for help as it will be a sign of weakness.”

One week later my friend was fired from his job because he could not do it. Had he asked for help and admitted he couldn’t get past a simple issue (which it was), he would still have a job now. Your boss is there for a reason. The senior people in your company are there for a reason. If you have an issue, talk early.

Last week, one of my staff e-mailed me with ”Bad news needs to travel faster than good.” And what he had to tell me was definitely not good news. We worked on a plan and we got through it.

Speak. Don’t keep it in. Ask for help. If you do it right, it may even be seen as a sign of strength.

(The timelines and details have been changed to protect the innocent. And the guilty too…)

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One Response to It’s okay to ask for help sometimes

  1. Ieva Pastore says:

    I dont even need to ask who it was..
    I do agree on what you are saying! it takes a while to understand – we can just hope that this person is learning from the mistake :)

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